A fulfilling sexuality leads to greater quality of life
- Oh Yes Baby Yes
- Jan 2
- 3 min read
An article by Johanna Janku, gynecologist, sex therapist, and founder of Oh Yes Baby Yes, for Bilanz.
The Perfect Lover
In a society shaped by pressure to perform and constant self-optimization, men often feel heavily burdened by both professional and private demands. The perfect man is expected to be healthy, confident, and successful – an ideal lover whose sexuality is regarded as an infallible symbol of his masculinity. Many men judge themselves harshly when they fail to meet these lofty standards. But does this perfect man even exist?
Don Juan and His Suit of Armor
Male sexuality involves complex processes such as erection, ejaculation, and fertility – it is an expression of identity and vitality. The erection of the penis has always symbolized the rise of masculinity. A WHO report (2015) highlights sexual function as a crucial component of quality of life, even in old age. In reality, male sexuality changes throughout life but remains an essential part of physical and mental health.
Indestructible?
Many myths still shape the perception of male sexuality. For instance, it is often assumed that "real men" are always ready and capable of sexual performance. Particularly, young men are expected to embody the ideal Adonis. In reality, issues like erectile dysfunction affect not only older men: studies show that 2–3 percent of men in their 30s and up to 54 percent in their 70s experience such challenges. Sexual difficulties are not limited to older men. Addressing these issues should not be taboo, and these myths must be debunked.
Even a Suit of Armor Can Rust
Sexual challenges can stem from many causes – physical and psychological. Cardiovascular diseases and diabetes are among the most common physical factors. Risk factors like obesity, lack of exercise, unhealthy eating, or substance abuse exacerbate the problem. On a psychological level, stress, performance pressure, and relationship conflicts act as barriers. Mental blocks, combined with physical causes, can further lead to a loss of libido. This often results in a vicious cycle of performance anxiety and declining self-esteem, making it even harder to achieve fulfilling sexuality.
Sexuality is one of the most intimate aspects of human life. The Oh Yes Baby Yes practice supports men in overcoming insecurities, addressing physical challenges, and building a new relationship with their body and mind. Sexual therapy begins with a comprehensive initial consultation. An individualized treatment plan is developed, and if needed, referrals to specialists are made to rule out physical causes. Tailored strategies are then created to address both body and mind, clarifying individual needs and goals.
"A crisis is a productive state. You just have to remove its taste of catastrophe."
– Max Frisch, Homo Faber
Sharpening the Tools
A healthy lifestyle is the key to fulfilling sexuality. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, sufficient sleep, and stress management not only improve physical health but also boost self-confidence.
At the same time, communication within a partnership is crucial: being open about desires and fears fosters closeness and trust. Sexual or couples counseling can help break down mental barriers and develop new perspectives. Medical support, such as adjusting medications or hormonal therapies, may also be necessary. Often, a combination of different approaches proves to be most effective.
Sitting Firmly in the Saddle with the Right Armor
True strength lies in the courage to confront problems. Men who take this path not only rediscover their potency but also uncover a deeper dimension of intimacy. With the right armor, men can confidently ride into the challenges of life once again.
Comments